So here I am, nearly in August, after so many months of relative isolation. As I have said before, our confinement was a comfortable one in Germany as we have space and have been able to walk each day. Things are freer for the moment and we have been away on a short trip to France which was a very welcome change of scene.
I have returned reluctantly – I would have liked to have travelled more but we had to be here for my partner’s physiotherapy. Travelling will come later, infection rates in Europe permitting. A week away did not feel enough. I have been pretty unmotivated for the last week or so. Drifting somewhat. And, when I reflect on this, I know that I would say to someone I am coaching: ‘ You need to take the time it takes ..’ and often you don’t know how long that will be. We have been in exceptional circumstances that are for some bewildering and produce emotions which we may not openly register. These emotions slow us down. My own reflection on my feelings makes me realise that I wish I could travel with more ease to see my family in the UK – I feel some sadness and frustration that are not satisfied by our regular calls.
Gradually this week I am organising jobs that need to be done and which I have put off for weeks. A new crown on my tooth, the service for the car, the replacement of a tap: the boring but important stuff is organised. To a coaching client I would say ‘What are the small steps you can take to move forward?’ – they only need to be very small to break the sense of inertia.
Meanwhile I build my resilience by making time for treats: taking time to cook something different, laying a beautiful table, and remembering amazing meals from our trip away. I am going to rediscover the museums of Düsseldorf in these coming weeks. The net has been scoured looking for where we will go on our next trip and planning ahead. Every evening I disappear into a novel for an hour or so. What are your treats?
I wish you a great week – take the time you need to take, make some small steps.., keep up the treats!
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